Different Strokes for Different Folks

My son engaged me in a discussion about a seminar / assessment he took part in — This information is taken from the book Grooming the Next Generation for Success by Dani Johnson.  We had a good discussion about understanding ourselves, and one another – so as to live in harmony, unity, and love.  Which GEM are you?

Sapphires tend to be very verbal and loud.  They are fun and wild.  They love loud music and they love to talk.  These “gems” are not usually orderly or on time, but  are very visionary.  They tend to be encouraging and natural motivators. They love to laugh and everything they do has to be fun.  They thrive on encouragement.  They love fun colors and clothes and lots of accessories.  Sapphires are major risk takers and multitakers.  They love teamwork, popularity, and people. They usually have the most friends and are the most popular and possess strong leadership skills.  They love to help and love to be rewarded.
Weaknesses of a sapphire: They have a hard time focusing (Society would say they have ADD or ADHD) are disorganized, disorderly, late,  and have over-active brains.  Sapphires are over reactors and get their feelings hurt easily.  They comonly struggle with distrust, blame, hatred, malice, resentment, bitterness, and unforgiveness.  They tend to wear their emotions on their sleeves and experience extreme highs and lows.  They want to be recognized by you and don’t want to dissapoint you.

Spiritual gifts:  To motivate and encourage


 Obey the first time.  They have a heart to fulfill the needs of people.  Listen well and love to help and serve. They are warm, sensitive, calm, even-keeled, compliant, honest, loyal, mellow, quiet.  Pearls don’t like confrontation and are major peace keepers.  They’re most comfortable alone or in small groups.  Tend to be musical and creative.  They usually wear comfortable clothes and earthy colors, or something special that was given to them.  They like the outdoors.  Pearls tend to be touchy-feely.
Spiritual gifts – to show mercy, heal,  intercede, and serve.

Weaknesses:  people-pleasers and can get themselves into co-dependent relationships.  Their feelings get hurt very easlily and they are sad when things don’t go right with people.  Pearls can be easily taken advantage of and need to have boundaries.

grooming – need to establish boundaries and boldness.


 Pays attention to details, facts, and figures.  Simplify complicated things and solve a lot of problems all at once. They often see solutions other people cannot see and like lists and making plans.  They love puzzles and problem solving.  Emeralds are extreme thinkers, predictable, quiet,  and compliant. Not people-pleasers and very comfortable being themselves.  They areconfident and have no problem pointing out what is wrong with a situation.  They can be very direct.  Emeralds like to look nice and naturally keep things clean.  They like schedules and routines and are never late.  Prefer to be alone and like to entertain themselves.  They will do homework by themselves and will rarely ask for help.

Spriritual gifts – teaching, discernment, and wisdom.  have a heart for righteousness with a clear sense of right and wrong. 

weakness – perfectionests.  Usually take longer to finish or start something.  They are not spontaneous risk-takers. Tend to beauthoritative and to put people on the defense.  If an Emearald agrues with you it must be because they are right.  They are always right and will tell you so.  Usually judged as being cold hearted and insensitive.  Not naturally humble.

Grooming- weak people skills. Teach them that “it is not about perfection; its about getting the job done with results.”  This helps them start things and get them done in a timely manner.


Always have to be the head of everything and the best.  They don’t surround themselves with other people who are better than they are.  Leaders and have to dominate. They have to win. They are warriours, strong, passionate driven, and have strong desires.  They like to be in authority and take charge.  They are determined, confident, and bold.  Rubies are goal setters.  They have an “It’s my way or the highway!” mentality.   They show initiative and take charge.  Rubies are big thinkers and fast.  They have a world shaking and history making mindset.   They want all the best clothes, shoes, and stuff.  They care about name brands and what is popular. They want to be the best in everything they do.  If they can’t win, they simply won’t play, and they may just say the game is stupid.

spiritual gift – leadership and governing. 

weakness – They are bossy and dominating, and get angry when things don’t go right.  They can be manipulative and pushy and perceived as arrogant and cocky.  They can suffer from severe depression.  They are often unteachable and self-reliant.  Often have ego problems. 

grooming – They can become amazing leaders; but you must must reach their heart and teach them how to be teachable.  Groom them to be humble, to serve,, and to be honorable.  Teach them to pull the best out of others instead of competing with them all the time.  Character has to be develped in them.

Spiritual gifts:  to motivate and to encourage

Once again, Which Gem are you? 

The Bible shows us that we should handle different people differently – Different Strokes for Different Folks so to speak.   1 Thess. 5:14 – And we urge you, brothers and sisters, warn those who are idle and disruptive, encourage the disheartened, help the weak, be patient with everyone.”  I trust you will love well, living in harmony and unity.


About Gary Coiro

Nonprofit & Church Leader Nonprofit Leader and Consultant since 2004, following 15 years as a pastor. Competencies include board development, fundraising, staff development and management, strategic planning, church work, Bible teaching, and capital campaigns. Currently consulting and serving on the Church Ministries Management Team for a large multi-cultural evangelical church.
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One Response to Different Strokes for Different Folks

  1. Very interesting and a fun, useful tool for informal team self evaluation and appreciation of various gifts and traits of each team member.

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